I remember it was one of those days when my father would start his speech about life and philosophy, and I thought, “I want to go… not again. I was about 11 years old and my mind would normally switch off in such conversations because I basically didn’t understand them. I didn’t understand what my father was talking about, and I avoided him, thinking about my affairs. But from those talks, something used to be withheld, even though I didn’t understand it and couldn’t put it into practice at the time.
One of the things that always stayed with me, even if it was not who invented it, was:
“Never forget where you come from”.
Many people are probably happy with their past, their family, their experiences, and the place where all this has led them. But what about those who don’t?
Usually there is another bunch people who condemns their past, their family, or their experiences and want to flee from all that and start a new life, without any kind of connection or union with what they were. Is this correct? Is this possible?
Throughout my life, like many people, I have gone through infinite stages. Moments when I hated my life and moments when it seemed like I was living a dream. I realized that much of that feeling was in me, and how I took advantage of the things that happened to me or the moments and experiences I lived. Today we have infinite ways of listening to speeches like the one my father used to give me, and which come from specialized, educated people, who we now call “emotional coach”, and we have that information at our fingertips through different platforms and even for free.
What good is it if, like me at 11, you don’t understand what they mean?
I don’t mean by this that they don’t work, of course there are those who get them at the right time and have their lives changed, I believe in it. But I believe above all in personal self growth, in the need to study ourselves, to study each experience, to try to understand what each one of them taught us, because believe me, they all contribute something to your life, sometimes even many years later, you get to see their meaning and reap its benefits.
It is very easy to turn your back on the problems, on the bad experiences we have had (I see it every day), but this will lead you to internalize a world of hatred, resentment, anger, which will only hurt you. Besides this you will not be able to recognize the mistakes you made in those moments, because you also may have the opportunity to learn what you could have done differently, what could have worked. Or maybe not, but you have another chance to try. I always compare this kind of behavior to keeping dirt under the carpet. Facing the problems, talking to those you’ve been angry with all your life, so much so that you can’t remember what happened, just the fact that you hate his, will make you heal. It will heal your mind, your body and your soul.
Understanding that not all people are the same, that there are people with bad intentions and others with good intentions, that meeting them both is part of the path, and that they will all teach us something necessary to live, will make you value much higher every second of your life. Every experience will wear you down less when it doesn’t go your way, because you don’t impose on yourself the thought that “it will be for something” but that you really know and understand that everything must happen, the good, the bad, the good news and the achievements, the disappointments…
I am not an emotional coach, I do not have a specific career in psychology or in the study of the human being, I am a simple girl who has learned to develop from her past, to discover all that these experiences brought her, to analyze her behavior in those moments, not only that of others, and thus to improve and change, to understand why people in their life acted like this, and to discover that many times it is their fault that we have not dedicated time to ourselves, to which is equal or more important, before judging the acts of another person, better to judge and focus on yourself and to evolve.
I never forget where I come from, on the contrary, I am here because of it.
Therefore, I will take care until the end of my days of those who sowed the seed of my path, without them nothing would be the same.
We don’t stop growing, it’s never too late. Stop and value what you’ve been through. Stop and understand why people acted the way they did, and analyze what you might have done differently, not to repent, but to learn from it. If you do not use the resources and wealth of our mind, the power of evolution, you will only lead a mediocre life.
